In reference to sex being the "main thing". Kick me wrote:
I resent that. It's just no reason to get married. If that's what it's all about, then we might as well just be animals
Nope, if that's THE main thing, no wonder so much pain is to be had in relationships
Lunee replied:
2. Sex is no reason to get married? I have to admit, I have never heard this position.
I agree Jay. Chosen quoted 1 Cor 7:8-9, which specifically states that sex
IS a reason! So if Scripture says it's a reason, why isn't it?
Didn't kick me write?:
of course we all marry for lust. then again, look closely at the definition of the word translated lust.
lust in and of it'self is not evil, it's only even when it is covetous of something that belongs to someone else.
Now, back to the fact we all marry for lust, and should. If one does not greatly desire their companion, they best not be with them.
That also seems to contradict his later statement of resentment.
It is just bad ideology for people to act as if sex is some sort of "unspiritual" act of "flesh". Making it sound like something bad!
Who is it that designed sex?
Who designed it to feel good?
Who created the "desire" for sex in men and women?
Who's idea was it that men would generally have a greater "desire" for it than women and toward women?
Who designed sex to be the binding seal of marriage?
The answer to all of the above is, YHWH.
If a man marries multiple women to satisfy his sexual appetite, so what? At least he has not sinned by committing fornication or adultery.
A man can remain righteous to YHWH by "MARRYING" rather than "burning" with unlawful lust toward women.
Think about this statement ( I got this from someone else, but it's right):
A man could sleep with 3, 6, 10 women and get them all pregnant. Run off into the sunset, not take care of his children and escape without penalty. Not by the "christian church" or the "law of the land".
By let that same man "marry" those 3, 6, 10 women and be a husband and father, then everybody is ready to throw him under the bus! Jail!
Truth be told, many, many men have had "more than one wife", but the wife they live with just doesn't know it! Do get upset, you all know it's true.
So why do "most" men (I'm sure its nobody on this forum
) cheat? Is it because most men are "dogs"? No.
I say it is because the programming of our society forces men and women to live under a system that is "against" YHWH's design.