How can is be horrible is Scripture says this is so? Isn't denying this "picking and choosing" what Scriptures you (or anyone) will obey?
You wrote in response to my comment that it is "horrible" to suggest that marriage is all about property.
My answer is, "No". It is not "picking and choosing" because the Scriptures do NOT teach that marriage is "all about property". That is a horrible and foolish notion.
Sucks, YES, but the truth of the matter is; it happens. Like take a girl who was not married and had sex; her virtue is gone. Being that she is no longer a virgin, it would be HARD to marry her off. In many cases, the father could not afford her anymore, hence she was sold into slavery.
Again, not only is this a ridiculous notion, it is NOT what Scripture teaches. If a man has sex with a woman to defile her, he MUST marry her OR if the father refuse to let her marry him, then the man MUST pay a "virgins wage" to the father. THAT is Scripture. I don't know where you and Cheri are getting these false ideas...
No father in his right mind is heartless and cruel enough to sell his daughter into slavery because he can't afford her. And you can't find any instance in Scripture where this is so.
I wrote:
Is 291K ALL you ladies are worth? I "thinketh noteth"... what a silly notion..
Adrienne replied:
The husband was to pay the bride's father the bride price; that is in scripture. You deny this?
No. I don't deny this. But this is only one aspect of the marriage process. It is not what marriage is ALL ABOUT. To believe that the entire institution of marriage is about money and that love, compassion and relationship are second hand by products that may or may not be relevant. THAT is what I deny.
I believe that the Messiah's demonstration of love and compassion is the ultimate example to a husband of what YHWH intended in Genesis. Cheri has reduced this example to a "Tina-Turner-whats-love-got-to-do-with-it" proposition.
Eriq, come on. I'm sorry but name calling? That's like being an immature child throwing a temper tantrum when he isn't getting his way. We’re all adults here; please can we act like mature people here?
I didn't call her any names. What I did was define her position according to the Scripture. It is Scripture that calls what she is teaching heresy. It is the same type mentality of Jezebel. Then on top of all of this, she claims to be a direct descendant of King David that can't help being focused on being treated like a Queen because it's in her DNA. That's delusional!
What is shallow and immature is to have ANY aspect of life focused on money and finance. Or have you not read the Messiah's words in Mattiyahu chapters 5 and 6?
The point is, yes the wife and child become the sole property of the husband, UNLESS the husband cannot comply with the marriage contract/covenant he and she (or he and her father) made. The husband HAS TO provide for HIS family; failure to do so is a breach of the marriage contract/covenant. Just like the wife having sex outside of her marriage is a violation of the marriage contract/covenant; only in case of sex outside of marriage (on HER part) results in HER death. That is all scriptural fact. Why argue about it?
Why do you feel the need to explain these things to me? Have you been reading the entire thread?
I do not dispute the husbands fiduciary duties in a marriage. What I DO dispute is the notion that "property" and "finance" are what marriage is all about. Adam and Chavah is the first example of marriage and that is not what there marriage was about. That idea is NOT "Scriptural fact".
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